The Update.......

So yet again work has got the better of me....                                             Been traveling away quite a lot and wow, the time until our babies arrive is just getting closer and closer. I have done quite a lot of shopping for India, as we still haven't found a house, still haven't brought the bigger family car, still no nurseries ARRGGHH!!!! So our update is Surrogate Mother # 1 is still carrying a very healthy singleton currently 21 weeks and 4 days and Surrogate Mother # 2 is still carrying 2 healthy little twins currently 18 weeks and 4 days. It just feels so amazing after all the emotions and the roller coaster ride of a journey, we are finally going to get our very instant family! Work has been amazing and given me 2 weeks annual leave prior to the scheduled cesarian  of our Surrogate Mother # 1, which will be the 22nd of Jul. The twins are scheduled to arrive on the 14th of August, but as we all know twins will come early, most likely all be arriving the same week! So with just over 13 weeks of work left before we start our new amazing parenthood journey and I can't wait BRING IT ON !!! I have done just a "small" amount of shopping. Clearly need to stop buying, but I can't can't help myself!!! Under Indian law they are not allowed to disclose the sex of the children but I have decided we are have having at least 1 boy and 1 girl (clearly a control freak). We look forward to our next lot of scans due with in the next few days for the singleton and the next few weeks for the twins.

1 over and 2 under

Well quite a lot has happened in the last time since I have blogged. Our surrogate mother #1 is 13 weeks and 6 days pregnant. Still carrying a very healthy singleton. Our surrogate mother #2 is still carrying the twins. Both seem to having strong little heartbeats. They are 10 weeks and 6 days. It feels like a huge achievement to make it this far. It also feels like, as a couple, the emotional roller coast of emotions you go through brings your relationship and bond so much stronger and closer. With 1 over 12 weeks and 2 just under, we hope to have the great news soon that all of them are in the green zone. Then finally we can tell everyone. Being a flight attendant for years, we love to share our life stories with everyone and anyone and to have to go through this process without telling any of them - you have no idea how hard it has been. Because the nature of our work is 24/7, departures around the clock, no public holidays, no weekends. The other cabin crew become your close friends and really like your family. You spend more time in the air and away with them than with your own family. So we are very much looking forward to telling them all. I just arrived back from Cocos Islands the other day. We spend 4 days up there in paradise, swimming, tanning and one too many glasses of wines and relaxing with crew. I have put up  some pictures I thought you might like to see.

Next Scan

We received our next scan of our beautiful surrogate mother #2. She is stil currently carrying healthy twins with strong heat beats. Because of what happened with our beautiful surrogate mother #1, we know to just wait until 12 weeks ........ and that feels so very far away ........ Thank you all so much for your support, thoughts and kind words. I feel so blessed to have people that understand what you are going through without having to explain in great detail. I hope that for everyone 2012 will be an amazing year full of happiness, joy and good health.

Another bump in our road

Well we received our next scan tonight from our clinic of our surrogate mother#1. Unfortuantely she has miscarried one of the twins she was carrying in our last scan. At 11 weeks, we still have a singleton with a very healthy heart beat. All tests for any nuerological abnormailties have come back negitive, which is somewhat good news out of this devastating bump in our road to becoming parents. The hardest thing is that last Friday a very close friend and workmate of mine passed way suddenly and unexpectedly. She was only 42 years old. We flew together for years. She was like an Aunty to me. The devastation it has cause to our close circle of friends, the family and all the other pilots and cabin crew has just been horrible. Heaven has definitely gained one of the most amazing angels it could have ever hoped for. So I would have to say, it's not the most amazing start to 2012 but we are staying positive ....... This process is full of emotions, ups and downs, highs and lows - you just have to take one day at a time and remember it will all be worth it when you have them in your arms.

The New Year

Firstly, I would like to apologise for my lazy blogging. So much has happened since my last blog. As you could imagine, being in the aviation industry, over the Christmas and New Year period the airline does not stop and it is one of the busiest times of our year. 

6th December 2011

Our Surrogate Mother #1 had a scan revealing 2 pregnancy sacs. We were both very excited. Looking forward to next scan.

13th December 2011

Our Surrogate Mother #1 had a heartbeat test. It revealed healthy heartbeats. 

15th December 2011

Our third cycle embryos (from the genetic material that was not successful from the second cycle) were cultured to day 6 and were transferred. 

4 embryos were transferred. 

The BHCG results are due on 23 December 2011.  So fingers crossed.

20th December 2011

Our Surrogate Mother #1 was admitted to hospital with bleeding. 

The next 7 days were full of emotions and daily updates from the clinic advising us of her status.

23rd December 2011

After a long anticipated day of checking emails, we were finally informed our Surrogate Mother #2 was pregnant with a BHCG of 360.15. Talk about the best Christmas present.

27th December 2011

Our Surrogate Mother #1 was discharged from hospital. We were informed everything was going OK with her pregnancy. 

28th December 2011

Our Surrogate Mother #1's scan still showed positive heartbeats. This obviously put out minds at ease after the last 8 days.

9th January 2012

Our Surrogate Mother #2's heartbeat test showed 2 healthy heartbeats.  

Our Surrogate Mother #1's scan showed she was still carrying twins with healthy heartbeats.

We are both very excited. Bring on the 12 weeks green zone!!!

Results of cycle 2

So last night we heard from our clinic....... One of our beautiful surrogates was negative to being pregnant and our other beautiful surrogate is pregnant with a BHCG level of 677. It is a very happy day for us, but as our agreed decision for having children was to have each a biological child this was a day also full of mixed emotions. We have asked our clinic to use our frozen embryos of the genetic material that wasn't successful for another transfer ASAP. These embryos will be implanted within 2 weeks. It's not about my child and his child, but providing a child (or children, if there is a multiple birth) with each of our genetic material to this earth that you will raise to the best of your ability to provide every opportunity so they can shape the way of the world, it is also the symbol of leaving behind something when you depart from your short time on this earth.  Next scan is next week.... and we should receive a date in the next week or so in relation to the next embryo transfer.

Embyro Transfer

Well on the 23rd of November 2011,  we had all grade 1, 4 cell embyros transferred into to our 2 amazing surrogate mothers..... We both had frozen embyros left over, so for us it was such a relief to know that having another chance at having our dream is an easier reality. It's now a stressful wait, all the emotions and hanging on to every bit of hope until that BHCG test, which is getting done on the 3rd of December 2011. We aren't like most couples that go through this process, being in the same city, let alone the same country at times, with me travelling all the time alot this month and last month, it's crazy that we support each other via email, phone and text messages. My mum also is so supportive and its a big help to know she is only a phone call away. This process makes you stronger as a couple and teaches you lots of life lessons....... Keep everything crossed for us!!!!